Today was lots of ups and downs. I started DBT and have many mixed feelings about that. I felt happy, sad, angry at myself, satisfied, troubled, worried and list can go on for a bit. Then on top of that I spotting a friend of mine flirting with someone other than her boyfriend. I felt hurt for a moment then wondered why she would do something like that. It's totally out of her normal element. When I called her out on it she tried to deny it. But I'm not stupid. When I told her I wasn't mad I was concerned she loosened up the reins and told me that she and her boyfriend are having a really hard time and she didn't know what to do. In that moment I went back to my DBT class and remembered EMOTIONAL MIND, RATIONAL MIND and WISE MIND. My RATIONAL MIND wanted to fix the problem. Sit them down and have a conversation about what was going on. My EMOTIONAL MIND wanted to hold her and cry with her. My WISE MIND however took over and I listened to her issues, gave my opinion and let her decide what to do. This isn't my life it's hers.
You will be missed so much. Chris and I love you with all our hearts. You left us to soon. If only we had one more time with each other. To hug. To laugh. To call on for advice. I was blessed to have known you as long as I did. Thank you for helping raise my husband. Being such a great role model for my children and grandchildren. Thank you for your love and admiration. Till we meet again ♥
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